Heather's Advice

NEW! I have started a new Q & A section where I am posting some of the better questions I've received from visitors and the answers I gave them. These are serious questions and I'm not making fun of them like I did on the Dumb Emails page. Click to visit the Spiritual Questions and Answers page.

Here is some general advice:

If you are a pagan, you will love John Denver music. If you are a spiritual person, you'll love John Denver music. If you are a decent human being, you will very likely love John Denver music. Currently, my favorite J.D. song is Rhymes and Reasons. I'm making a John Denver page (in progress) so I can show my love for him here on my site.

I would also really like to introduce you to my friend, Blake. He makes videos on YouTube about spiritual topics such as lucid dreaming, meditation,

Some advice that many people seem to appreciate is....

You don't have to be Wiccan to be a witch.

Just let me repeat that... You do NOT have to be WICCAN to be a WITCH! I'm serious. You have probably gotten the idea by surfing the web or looking at witchcraft books that Wicca is your only option. But it's not. Wicca can be a complicated religion with a number of rules. They have set beliefs for you to follow. I know Wicca seems cool, but there are other ways to be a pagan or a witch. Wicca has only been around for about 50 years, whereas witchcraft has been around for thousands. I don't claim to be an expert on Wicca, but I'm just saying that I realize the reason many of you want to be Wiccan is simply because that is what you found first and it seemed like the right thing to do. You don't have to be any religion at all to be a witch.

Plus, there are so many people that make fun of Wiccans. You don't need that. And the sad part is, some of them are right. Way too many Wiccans go around telling other witches what they should and shouldn't do. 'Don't do love spells.' 'Harm none, do what ye wilt.' That's fine for you, if that's what you believe, but many people feel that you are being holier-than-thou when you try to tell them what to believe. I think many Wiccans are just regular witches who are calling themselves Wiccan, not really knowing what being Wiccan really entails. I hear there are over 100 rules that Wiccans are supposed to follow. That's pretty crazy. If I wanted that many rules (or ANY, period) I'd just go running back to Christianity. The two religions seem very similar to me in many ways.

More helpful advice:

Read up on reincarnation if you haven't already. A wonderful book to start with is "Journey of Souls" by Michael Newton, Ph.D.

Alright, I thought I'd add this little tidbit... I get a number of letters from people who want me to teach them how to be a witch. These are generally 13-15 year olds. Here's what I'm going to tell you if you ask (so you don't have to ask)... Read as much as you can on the subject of paganism. Read books (I read all the spirituality books at my public library when I first starting learning.) And you can also read other pagan web sites. There is a wealth of information on the Internet. Probably one of the best places to go is Witchvox.com. Click on Info there to get to the info pages. Witchvox also has a directory of witches and pagan stores and clergy where you live.

I do understand that Wiccans don't practice black magick or any magick that affects other people without their permission. I personally believe that's a good thing, but I'm not Wiccan, so there is no need to write and tell me what Wiccans do and don't do, because I've read enough about them and I know it already. Several Wiccans have written me (and signed my guestbook) to let me know that Wiccans don't do love spells. lol. That's great. I don't believe that ALL Wiccans are against love spells though (even though they should be if they consider themselves Wiccan). Most of the hits on my web site are from people looking for love spells, and since many witches are Wiccan, I'm guessing there are lots of Wiccans looking for love spells. Anyway, it's not against Wiccan rules as long as you aren't singling out one particular man (or woman) and casting a spell on them. You could do a spell to find your soul mate or something like that. That's not against the rules. This site has a ton of Love Spells. Get this... I just received another letter from a 14 year old warning me against the love spells again. Guess what kids? I don't care what kind of spells other people cast. It's not my business. And it's not your business either.

So my advice is, don't go around telling other witches what they should or shouldn't believe. (Or any person besides witches for that matter.) I can tell you they probably won't appreciate it or care and it won't change how they believe, especially if your grammar is all whack and they can tell you're only 13. lol. And if you're in some AOL chat room for witches with your little clique of friends preaching to everyone else about the Wiccan Rede, you're acting as dumb as a Christian. Many of you know already that there are cliques of witches out here on the Internet that for some reason feel they are better than the "newbie" witches. I'm no newbie, but I do feel for these people that are getting a snobby reaction from other witches when they ask a simple question. Let's all live in peace and harmony <snicker>. The world will be a better place. Remember this stuff, for real, and if you are a new witch, don't let others get you down by what they say to you. You really don't need any Internet witch friends. I don't have any. You can do any kind of witchcraft on your own, without a coven, and without chat room buddies.

Click this link if you want more mean advice and opinions of mine. You'll also get to see many of the stupid emails I've received from people. You will get a good laugh from it if you have a bit of a wicked sense of humor.

There is also a pagan message board that's a cool place to hang out. There are lots of really nice, helpful people there. You have to be 16 or over to join the message board.