Advice from Starwitch on Life, Love,
Money, Spells, and everything else.
Do You Have a Spell so My Boyfriend Can Experience My
Nightmares with Me?
My name is Nicole and I suffer from nightmares a lot. Personally I am a
strong believer of the natural course of things so I won't do a spell to
block them. But every time I have one it is so vivid it scares me badly
and even makes me cry. I call my boyfriend and get calmed down and all is
well. The reason I am writing is that my boyfriend is tired of me calling
and him having no idea what I am going through or why I am freaking out
since half the time I can't stop crying long enough to tell him. We were
wondering if you have heard of a spell to either give him my dreams or
(more preferably) to share my dreams with him so he goes through it with
If you could help us I would really appreciate it. Thank you.
That was a strange letter. I expected you to ask for a spell to make the
nightmares stop, even though you may have been opposed to such a spell.
It's a bit shocking to hear you ask for a spell that would allow your
boyfriend to SHARE the horrible nightmares you are having. I know you want
him to be able to sympathize with you and know what you are going through,
but wanting him to have nightmares is not the way to go about it. If you
love a person, you would never wish nightmares on them, even if he says he
is willing to do this.
I'm guessing that you are probably having night terrors. I have them too,
not so much anymore, but I used to for years and years. It really IS one
of the scariest things a person can go through and I know how real they
feel. If you feel like you are awake but your body is paralyzed, then you
are having sleep paralysis, which can also be accompanied by nightmares or
hallucinations which seem like they are actually happening. What you need
to do is figure out what is causing the nightmares and try to make it
stop. Getting understanding and sympathy from your boyfriend isn't going
to make the nightmares stop. I always wished someone else could understand
what I was going through too, but that never happened. Some things you
just have to deal with yourself. I'm willing to help though, so you aren't
Are you under any stress in your life right now or in the recent past? How
long have you been having these nightmares, and did anything happen in
your life before they started occurring? When I was a teenager, I had a
crack overdose and right after that I started having night terrors on a
regular basis. It was the physical and emotional stress of the overdose
that was causing them. They slacked off in about a year (slowly), but when
new trauma would happen in my life, like a rape or abuse situation, the
night terrors would come back.
Here is a website on
Here is a website on
They are similar in some ways, but different too. Try to
figure out if you having one or both of these. If so, you can have your
boyfriend read the websites if you want him to understand what you're
going through. If you are having regular nightmares, night terrors, or
sleep paralysis, you'll need to find out what stress in your life is
causing this to happen and then use positive thinking to make it stop.
Before you go to sleep each night, repeat over and over, "I have peaceful,
happy dreams. I have peaceful happy dreams..." Also, repeat this as many
times as you can remember throughout the day. You may also want to ask
your spirit guide to make the nightmares stop. What you should NOT do
though, is put a lot of thought and energy into thinking about and talking
about the nightmares (or anything negative.) Your thoughts and beliefs
create your reality. If you keep thinking and fearing that you will have
nightmares, then you will continue having nightmares. But if you tell your
brain over and over again that "I have peaceful, happy dreams", eventually
it will sink into your subconscious and the nightmares will stop.
Read this page about
nightmares in children. I think you could easily apply any of this to
your situation, whether you are a child or not. Nightmares are caused by
stress and fear. If you can figure out where that is coming from and try
to resolve it, the nightmares will stop.
Sometimes people, especially women, tend to daydream and imagine terrible
"what if" situations. What if you got raped? What if you were attacked?
And then you play out the imaginary scenario in your mind, thinking of all
the things that could happen and possibly acting them out to yourself. Do
you do that sometimes? I'm guessing that you do. I used to do that a lot
when I was younger. It took me years to realize what was happening... By
fantasizing and daydreaming about negative situations that might happen, I
was putting a LOT of thought and energy into things that I did NOT want.
As a result, those things started actually happening in my life. I was
raped many times. I was abused, kidnapped, and all kinds of negative crap.
Years later, I was able to put two and two together and I realized that my
fantasies and thoughts were actually creating my reality. I know it sounds
simple and like a fairy tale, but it is very true. So I stopped
fantasizing about things that I did NOT want to happen and I started
fantasizing about things that I DID want to happen, like finding a great
man (which I did), getting rich (which we are), getting off of drugs (I'm
clean now), quitting cigarettes (I quit 4 days ago), and on and on. My
life is great now because of positive thinking. Your thoughts create your
reality. That is the truth. And when your thoughts are negative, your
reality will be negative as well. So think only positive thoughts. You CAN
control your thoughts, despite feeling as though you may not be able to.
Whenever you find your thoughts drifting into the negative zone, you force
it to stop. You can say a positive affirmation such as "Every day, in
every way, I'm getting better and better" to take your mind off negative
thoughts. You can sing a song, watch TV, or turn on the radio to make it
stop. You can do whatever works, as long as you change the subject in your
mind and force the negative thoughts to go away. If you do this enough,
they will stop coming back because you will train your mind to think only
positive thoughts. If you have any major trauma that needs to be worked
out, you may want to talk to a therapist and get that out though, instead
of pushing the thoughts away. But after you have gone through therapy, no
more thinking about bad things. You're done with thoughts like that.
Here is a site that will teach you about mind power. Mind power is THE
power behind spells. It is what makes spells work. Intent/mind
power/visualization/goal-setting... it all works and it will change your
life if you use it. Best of luck to you. You can write back if you need