Advice from Starwitch on Life, Love,
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A Spell to Make My Boyfriend Value Me and Want me
I need your help. I was in a relationship with a guy for
a year and a half but then due to some reasons we broke up. But even
after that we are on talking terms.... everything is the same
except that the words "relationship" and "commitment" are not there.
It's just like before - We talk, we say I love you, we meet, we have
sex, but we are not in a relationship... and I want him back with me
forever..... and also the reason we broke up was that he never use to
give me importance in front of his friends and this is also happening
now... I want him back and I want him to value me.....and respect me and
my love.... I really can't live without him.... I want him for the rest
of my life.... separation or divorce is no option for me.... I hope you
understand what I am going through...... and yes I have also discussed
my problem with him... but he repeats the same thing every time... so
please help me out with this...
I want u to tell me a suitable spell for my
problems....which is easy to perform..... and also as I live in India
its really difficult to get the occult stuff....
Waiting for your reply.
What he means is that you are important for his sexual gratification,
but not important enough for him to commit to you. Why would he bother
committing to you and dealing with the hassle of having a girlfriend
when he can have sex with you with no obligation?
I think the thing that women usually fail to realize is that sex is THE
single most important thing for the majority of men. Sex is their
motivating force. Sex is the main reason that they put up with the
immature, petty, bitchy behavior of many women. Throughout all of our
tantrums and whining and complaining, they are still hoping that somehow
they will manage to get laid. As women, it's hard for us to imagine how
a person's sex drive can be such a motivating factor in his life, but if
you just take a look at the animal kingdom you will easily see that
nearly ALL animals operate in the exact same way. The males are
primarily motivated by sex and all of their actions and behaviors are
designed so that they will achieve copulation with a female.
Even though men desire sex more than anything else, you can't just give
it to them all the time. If you are in a typical relationship where
neither of you is self-aware (consciously allowing God to work through
you at all times) then you are dealing with his ego, not his spirit.
Therefore it's necessary that you learn how to manipulate his ego
properly. The way to do this will obviously vary depending on the
person, but one general rule that you can follow with men is this:
1. Men like a challenge.
Don't throw yourself at a man and give him everything he wants. if you
do, he will think that you're easy. He won't think of you as a
challenge. Why do you suppose your man would want a woman who is so
desperate and needy that she would do practically anything to keep a man
in her life? (He wouldn't!)
You want to make him think that you're worth having and worth waiting
for (because you are). Confident, self-assured women don't allow their
man to disrespect them, put them down, abuse them, or use them for his
own sexual purposes.
A strong woman is happy with herself and doesn't mind being alone. If
you can be happy alone, this gives you a huge advantage over men and
your relationships will thrive because of it. If he knows that you don't
NEED him, then he will have to try to win your affection. But if you
have made it clear to him that you are lost without him, that you feel
hopeless and lonely when he isn't there, then he knows that he can treat
you any way he wants to and you will still be there, waiting for him,
since you don't have enough self-esteem to move on and find someone who
will treat you better. For any man to think you are worthy, YOU HAVE TO
THINK OF YOURSELF AS WORTHY FIRST.
This is why it is so important to develop self-love and self-esteem. if
you don't like being around yourself, what makes you think that anyone
else is going to enjoy your company? Most likely they won't. I don't say
this to make you feel hopeless. I'm saying it to let you know that you
can decide to fix this problem. You can start now, making positive
changes in your life. There are thousands of books written on this
topic. There are endless numbers of websites and online videos where you
can learn this material for free. If you can get out of your
self-created sorrows for even a few minutes a day and look at things
objectively and with a calm mind, and spend some time developing your
self-esteem through one of the many methods available, you will see a
huge improvement in all areas of your life.
The truth is, you have to work on yourself before you will ever be able
to have a fulfilling relationship with another person. If you feel that
you aren't complete without a mate, then that means that you aren't
complete, period. Having a mate will only make things worse because you
will expect him to complete you. He can't complete you. Only God can
complete you. You must learn to meditate daily and allow God to work
through you to create the perfect life for you. This is a conscious
decision that you must make and you have to stick with it, always asking
God/Spirit to work guide you and work through you. Eventually, you will
find that YOU have become the God of your own life and that you have
complete control over everything that happens. That is how you create a
perfect life. Then you will be able to attract a partner who is on the
same level of consciousness as you and each of you will be able to give
100% to the other person, resulting in a loving, caring, giving
relationship where both people's needs are met and exceeded. This is the
future of human relationships. I hope to see you there!
P.S. I want to add that when a person is so desperate that they say
things like, "I really can't live without him," that makes me suspect
that you may have lost a part of your soul to this person. In that case,
I would recommend that you look into having a Soul Retrieval done in
order to get back what was lost. If you are in a situation like this, it
is likely that you have lost parts of your soul previous to this
relationship as well. You were probably already weak when you met this
person and that was how you got pulled into an unhealthy relationship.