My boyfriend cheated on me and I am SO angry at him! Do you have a
spell that I can cast on him to get revenge?
Performing revenge spells on other
people is a spiritually immature act and only serves to prove that you are
on the same low emotional and spiritual level as the person who you
believe cheated on you. Please read my
Free Spell Newsletter from September 17, 2006 to learn why he may have
cheated on you in the first place and what you can do in the future to
prevent that from happening again.
Certain personality types
tend to attract cheaters again and again. I
would venture to guess that this particular boyfriend is not the only person in
your life who you feel has victimized you in some way.
You perceive yourself as a victim and therefore you become
one. It's simple once you understand the thought-energy
behind it. I used to think of myself as a victim too, so I can understand how
it feels to you.
Revenge won't fix anything. It will only keep you stuck
in your victim mode. You need to improve your confidence and learn to
appreciate yourself so that others can too. When you hear people say that
you must love yourself before anyone else can love you, you probably think
"that's crap", but it's actually true. It may be difficult to
understand, but think about it this way... Do you enjoy the company of miserable
people, people who complain all the time, people who put you down or put
themselves down? No, you don't. People like that are awful to be around,
even though they seem to think their tales of victimization are
enthralling to the rest of us.
If you don't love yourself and enjoy your own company then you're
probably one of those people, which means that no one else enjoys your
company much either.
Like attracts like. If you are attracting people of a low
emotional caliber then you yourself are emotionally immature as
well. I know it doesn't seem that way to you, but that's because you're
lying to yourself and you believe your own lies. Nearly everyone does it
and it begins in early childhood when you're first learning how to get by
in this world.
Without getting into this too deeply, let me suggest that you put yourself on a course of
self-improvement. The more emotionally and spiritually healthy you are,
the better mates and friends you will attract. If you think things like,
"all the good guys are taken", that shows that you have low self-worth.
There are plenty of men available in the world. Think of the divorce rate!
If you can never seem to find any good men, that means you need to improve
yourself because the good men are not attracted to you due to your
emotional deficiencies. It's imperative that you stop lying to yourself
about your behaviors and true motivations if you are to ever be truly
Two good books you can read to help yourself in the love
Getting the Love You Want and
Keeping the Love You Find by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. This book
explains why we choose the mates that we choose and why they choose us.
It's all done subconsciously, and until you understand what's going on,
you won't be able to change it. This book is highly recommended by Oprah.
"Getting the Love You Want" is a couple's guide and "Keeping the Love You
Find" is for singles.