Advice from Starwitch on Life, Love,
Money, Spells, and everything else.
Is there a curse on me and my family?
I am not for sure, but I think maybe someone put a hex or curse on me
and my family. I know my son's girlfriend's mother was into Wicca and
witchcraft and such at one time and I also know she is heavily into meth
and not a very nice person and personally HATES me...
Her daughter ran away from her to be with my son when she was 15. The
police wouldn't help her because of her meth addiction and her abusive
nature. I know, it's crazy, but they seriously just let her live with
us. Since then we have had some very, very horrible things happen to us:
1. We have been so broke that we literally have no food in the house
sometimes for 2 weeks at a time. This has never happened!
2.Our St. Bernard was hit by a car at Christmas and she miscarried a
litter of puppies... a source of our income.
..3.My.. middle son's girlfriend was in a car accident and died
instantly in March.
..4.My.. middle son and youngest son decided to try to live with their
Dad at Christmas... just out of the blue. (Not a really bad thing as
their Dad is a really good guy... but it was really strange timing.)
..5. My.. mother's diabetes has been so out of control she can barely
..6. My.. oldest son lost his job.
..7. My.. brother tried to kill himself in March.
..8. My.. husband's car broke down and we have been unable to fix it...
no money, don't know what is wrong with it.
..9. My.. oldest son's girlfriend got pregnant... she had an abortion
(and it just broke my heart). Her mother took her to 3 different places
to have the abortion... the first 2 appointements she was late and had
to re-schedule because of her mother.
..10. My.. home has nearly been foreclosed on many, many times this
11.The plant my husband works at (that has been in the area for more
than 40 years) is threatening to close.
12.I have gained about 40 lbs and I am already overweight.
13.I was approved for lap band surgery and the very next day they took
my insurance away for not having worked enough hours due to a knee
14. I had to have knee surgery in March.
15.I just found out my youngest son (age 14) is smoking.
16. My oldest son and his girlfriend are now having relationship
I know the economy is bad. Maybe some of that is to blame. But I can
tell you now... I can feel the negativity smothering my family and the
strangeness surrounding our home. Something has been wrong for awhile
now. I don't know how much of this I can take!
Can you help me??
Can you please write me a list of all the things that you are grateful
for in your life?
Here's my list:
1. I am alive.
2. I am a good person.
3. I like having Internet access.
4. Being an American isn't half bad either.
5. I can help other people by sharing my experience and knowledge.
6. I have learned about The Law of Attraction so I know that I will
always be okay.
7. My ex-boyfriend Dean is in prison (for murder) and is not stalking me or murdering me.
8. The other people who have raped or abused me are no longer in my life
and most of them are dead.
9. I got kidnapped one time but I got away before he got me to his house
and attacked me.
10. Dean raped me and abused me but did not kill me.
11. Other people sexually assaulted me but I didn't catch AIDS, so that's good.
12. I was addicted to drugs for many years and it took a toll on my body
but I'm still here and I'm recovering.
13. I love to read so I'm never bored.
14. Even though other people think I'm weird, my life is incredibly
interesting and I'm always learning something new and exciting.
I could really go on and on like this. I didn't even mention the major
things I'm grateful for (like my website) since I didn't want you to
ponder on the things that you currently feel are lacking in your own
The point is, all of us go through trials sometime during our life. Some
of us have horrible trials and some are not so horrible. Mine were
horrible. Yours sound pretty horrible too so I can definitely relate to the
stress that you must be feeling.
Here's the trick... You have to learn how to focus on what is RIGHT in
your life as opposed to focusing on what is wrong. If you can manage to
keep it together and come out okay in the end then you will be stronger
for having endured these trials. God is preparing you for something. The
faster you get in touch with the God within you and let God use you for
His/Her own purposes, the sooner your trials will lessen. When you are operating
at a human ego level, you have to always be concerned about other people
destroying you since the ego exists only in our imagination. But once
you tap into the God power that is inside of you, you no longer have to
worry about destruction. God is not intimidated by crazy meth-head
Wiccans or anyone else.
In my Question and Answer section on the site I have a page about
curses. The answer that I gave to that lady is pretty much the same
answer that I would give to you so I'll give you the link to it:
Filled with hate - Is there a
curse on me?
With all that said, it is possible that the girl that
moved in with you has absorbed so much negative energy from her family
that it is dragging your family down. But I'm guessing from your letter
that you have had your share of problems that have nothing to do with
her. She probably just added to the chaos and negativity that was
already present but was brewing just below the surface. Basically you
are the only person who can improve the energy that surrounds you. It
would be nice if the other residents of your home could also help. Maybe
you could all sit down together and watch "The Secret". Have you seen
After you learn how to control your thoughts and thus, your reality, you
can also teach the other members of your household how to do this. You
will be doing them a huge service. This may also be the way in which God
is using you. Writing to me might have been that event that sets things
in motion for you if you choose to take advantage of this opportunity. I
can tell you that wonderful things await you if you do take the leap.
Read that link I gave you and start practicing the suggestions given. If
you are serious about making changes in your life, there are ways to
achieve that. They are not the quick fixes that witchcraft movies would
lead you to believe though. You have to change your level of
consciousness and then all else will follow suit.
Do you mind if I use your question on my Q and A page? I can change all
the names involved so no one knows it's you. (You can say no if you want
Yes, by all means, please use it! And thank you so much for your quick
response. You certainly have been through a lot! I really don't blame
Makayla for my bad luck... lol. Honestly, I am very, very sensitive to
picking up feelings and cannot be in a room with her mother for very
long before I feel truly physically ill and very tired. It's strange.
There really is a lot of negativity there.
There are some negativity
issues on the home front, too, of course. I really know I should be
thankful that I still have a home and that my brother is still alive and
that my son isn't suicidal over his girlfriend leaving him (yet- she is
stringing him along). And the whole thing with his girlfriend is that,
even though I force myself to stay out of it and let them work it out, I
am also hurt and feel abandoned by her. She and I were close and I feel
I really went out on a limb for her and then she up and leaves without
telling us she is going! I was so scared I thought she might have been
kidnapped or worse. Then to find out she was "hiding" because she "just
needed to get away"... I was so angry and I did say some things I didn't
mean but can't take back. And I am still very, very angry.
Then I began
thinking about the rest of the year... all the things that happened to
us this year that were awful... worse than any year I can ever remember!
I will try very hard to look at the positive over the negative. I did
hug her when we found her and told her "At least you are OK". I also am
aware, more than most, that everything happens for a reason. But,
geez... wouldn't it be nice if we could just cast a spell and it would
all go hunky dory?? lol kidding
Anyway, really... thank you so very much for your encouragement. I
really, really needed it!
I didn't catch anything in the first email about the
girlfriend running away from your home. The only time I have ever run
away from people is when I was afraid they would hurt me. Do you suppose
that your son could be being unkind to her? Have your children ever
witnessed you being abused or have they themselves been abused? You
don't necessarily have to answer that. I just wanted to suggest to you
that abuse is like an energy that tends to stay around families that are
involved in it, so that if you yourself have been involved in abusive
relationships, the likelihood of your children doing the same is pretty
high. If her own mother was abusive to her, it's not likely that she is
going to be able to choose healthy relationships with boys. She'll
almost certainly choose to be with boys who are unkind to her since she
feels worthless due to the abuse her own family inflicted upon her. (The
cycle is really endless unless you put the effort into stopping it.)
I terminated a pregnancy when I was 17. I realize that it must hurt to lose a
potential grandchild. Maybe it will comfort you to hear that in all of
the spiritual books I've read they always say that when there is an
abortion, that the event was planned that way from the beginning. It is
meant as a growing experience for the pregnant woman and those around
her. If there was a soul assigned to her that is supposed to be her baby
then that soul will come through as another child at a future date. The
spirits know everything in advance and they do not usually assign souls
to fetuses that will be aborted. When I think of the horrors that my
child and I would have gone through had I completed the pregnancy, I
cringe. The man who was the father murdered another human being a mere 6
months after the pregnancy. What if he had been the father of my child?
If you are a sensitive person, you may actually be picking up HER
feelings about the abortion. You might try some energy blocking
techniques so that everyone else's issues don't affect you quite so
deeply. Everyone has trials to go through in life and it certainly
sounds as though your family is being hit with a bad time right now. If
you can be strong enough to give them the encouragement to pull through,
you will all come out better for it in the end.
There is something you should know... There is a shift in global
consciousness happening right now. The people who can evolve to this new
way of thinking and being are going to be the ones who live more
peacefully and happily. Those who resist and who cling to their old ways
will have a much more difficult time. Suicide rates and murder rates
will likely get higher and higher until this shift is over. I believe
that we are in the tribulation that the Bible speaks of, but I think
it's different from what they believed it to be. They believe that
Christ is going to return. What they don't realize is that Christ is
already here within many of us as the "Christ Consciousness" or "Global
Consciousness" that you may have heard about. Once this energy starts to
work through you, your life starts to change in big (though sometimes
My life is a good example of how someone can totally change once they
have accessed this energy and made it a part of themselves. I haven't
had the opportunity to take the drug ecstasy, but from what I have heard
of it, it seems that people are changed for the better for having used
it. It gives them a new perspective so that they are able to see that
everyone is connected and that love is the connecting factor. I am
really excited about the potential for world peace once enough people
absorb this new consciousness. But life could be very difficult for
those who refuse to accept this new way of being. It is the difference
between being on God's side and being on the side of evil (which is
really not evil as much as it's just ignorance and negative thinking.)
If you are in the sphere of negativity, then all you will attract into
your life are negative things. All of the people you know will have
negative problems and dramas. But once you move out of that energy and
move into a positive energy, everything changes. You attract positive
energies, people, and circumstances into your life.
It's exactly like a city. There are parts of the city where, if you live
there, you are surrounded by negativity, drama, and pain. But if you
move out to the country or suburbs, where your neighbors live simple,
peaceful lives, you'll find that your own energies begin to smooth out
and life starts improving for you. Think of your thoughts, other people,
energy, and everything else in that context and then decide that you
want to start moving towards the Light and away from darkness. Spend
some time each day, as often as you can, imagining how wonderful life
will be once you are living in that energy.
In 2012, the shift will be at it's peak. Please start giving this some
thought so that you are not one of the ones who get "left behind", as
the Christians like to say. (Little do they know that many of them will
be left behind too, though I have actually noticed a big change in
Christians. They are becoming much more tolerant than they used to be.)
I sincerely hope that things start to lighten up for you soon. It's good
that you are drained by being around negative energy. I'm the same way.
That means that you have more light in you than the negative people do.
This means that you are actually bringing Light to them and helping to
bring them out of darkness. But don't drain yourself or you won't be any
good to anyone. Only allow yourself to be around people like this when
you feel that you're strong enough to handle it. I am not usually strong
enough to be around anyone like that in person for any length of time.
It's much easier for me to simply advise people over the Internet and
not have to feel their energy full-force.
Life can be tough, for sure. The only things we get to bring back with
us (to God) in the end are knowledge and love, so try to get as much of
both of those as possible and then when you pass over you and God (who
are actually the same in the larger sense) will both be very pleased
with the way things went in your life.