Jealousy stems from fear and
overwhelming belief in lack or scarcity. We live on a fertile planet. We
have signs of abundance everywhere - in the trees, the ocean, the
scurrying animals. This world teams with life and light. Jealousy comes
from putting your attention on the shadow, focusing on feelings of
smallness or unworthiness or control. Love is illimitable, it naturally
flows easily to every corner of the world and yet with shadow, secrets
and darkness, love can be twisted into possession and domination.
The Ancient Ones believed that every
deity (a deity is a face or aspect of the Creative Source) had both
light and dark qualities, just as the earth plane consists of dark and
light. Note I'm not saying good and evil, but dark and light. There was
no judgment, just an observation of the different sides to the coin. The
Ancient Ones didn't have TV or computers - they had the skies and each
other and so they became experts at examining human behavior and finding
corresponding connections in the natural cycles of the seasons,
planetary movement and the constellations. Their deities or Gods and
Goddesses took on human qualities, including both dark and light sides,
so that the people could better relate to Divine Source. Even Aphrodite,
the Goddess of Love and Beauty, has a darker side that holds the space
and creates the energy to become obsessed with love, manipulating and
forming it to meet our desires, despite whether or not it’s a good match
or the right time for us.
It's like if you’ve ever danced
around a May Pole or gone square dancing. You have one partner at a
time. You accept this partner and this moment in its perfection, then
you let go. But when you can't let go... befriending Dark Aphrodite
helps us tap into the smallness and darkness and secrets of our
unworthiness, desire for control or distrust of love and allows it to
transform back to love in light with our attention. When you sit quietly
with your need to control, you will activate a feeling of being heard,
with the result being that you receive the attention that you needed and
the jealousy can begin to fade and dissolve. In your stillness, you will
realize that all control is an illusion. Life is always changing;
nothing stays the same or can be manipulated into constant stagnation or
inactivity. Jealousy is an attempt to hold something against you so that
it loses its ability to be truly alive. Love needs to move and be free,
not be constrained. And so comes the time to trust that life is moving
you towards love, whether it’s the thing or person you desire or
something even better.
Find an image of Aphrodite and place
it on a red cloth on your altar. Put a shell in front of Aphrodite.
Light a candle and say,
I welcome Aphrodite, Goddess
of Love and Beauty
Sea-drenched, you were foam-born of the abundant mighty sea,
Ancient Goddess of Dark and Light.
Be With me now.
By my will, so mote it be.
Place the candle on her right side,
so that a shadow falls across the Goddess about halfway. Cut a
pomegranate in half. As you squeeze the juice of the pomegranate into
the shell, say
Please accept my offering of
pomegranate, a precious fruit
So that I may learn the difference of love, in flower or root
A reason, a season, a lifetime are the stages of love
May I accept all relations as gifts from above.
And not bind myself to any one person or thing
I accept the offers of love and beauty that you bring
Knowing that true love is the dance of two open spaces
I open my heart to receive love in all places
Place the squeezed pomegranate on
Aphrodite’s left side to represent all the love that you have received.
Place the other side of the pomegranate on her right side to represent
all the love that is yet to come to you and the abundance with which you
can share your love with the world. Sit with your feelings of jealousy
or smallness. Breathe through it. Repeat the phrase above as often as
you need to until you notice that the light begins to ease darkness.
Free Witchcraft Spells
Jamie Martinez Wood
Martinez Wood is a teacher and the author of eight books on empowerment,
magic, earth spirituality, and Latino culture. A firm believer in the
power of writing, Jamie has kept a diary since she was eleven years old,
and she still has that first one. Her passion is to provide support and
encouragement to young women on their life’s journey. She teaches
workshops, leads retreats, and gives performances on personal power,
seasonal living, the faerie essence of herbs and ritual ceremony. She
conducts classroom visits and assemblies on writing, publishing, and
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