I can commiserate. I had the worst fear of projecting but forced myself to say, "Leave your body. Its okay, your GA (Guardian Angels) will take care of you." I did this for a few nights and when I least expected I left my body and went to the place that I had been telling myself that I wanted to go. I cannot seem to mimic telling myself to do it again though, when I do it now, it is again unexpected, and lately I have bounced off the walls and been cooped in my house because I dont know how to tell myself to go to the wall and get out...
You just have to be in a positive state of mind and program yourself to repress the fear.