Lily Cantodea wrote:
But yeah, me being as stubborn as I am will be an issue; apparently guys have very fragile egos. As far as I know, men flirt with women like that, but they don't marry them.
They do, but they do it thinking that once they are your husband you'll become barefoot and pregnant and all that stuff a good wife is suppose to be. You need to find a man who was raised by a strong woman and you'll have better luck. And for the jrocker, you can always go to Japan or even take a pretty rocker boy of a different Asian background. They can be just as fun
They say only Silver Bullets kill the beast inside.....
Heh heh, I wish. I don't think I'll ever find a guy. And anyway, as far as I know Japanese men aren't into strong-willed women. Girls in Japan are raised to be submissive to their husbands; I can tell you right now that I am NOT that kind of woman.
Lily Cantodea wrote:Heh heh, I wish. I don't think I'll ever find a guy. And anyway, as far as I know Japanese men aren't into strong-willed women. Girls in Japan are raised to be submissive to their husbands; I can tell you right now that I am NOT that kind of woman.
I have Japanese guy friends who would say otherwise. There's a reason for characters like Sailor Moon who are very strong willed, ass kicking females. Japanese men and Asian men in general are mostly raised by their mothers, they father not being around for much of anything because of work. Because of this they look up to women very much. They see how a woman has to be strong to hold together and run a family. And there's also a reason why when Japanese men go home their paycheck is handed directly to the wife and he only gets an allowance. It's not that the women are weak, it's a weird mind game, letting the man think he's strong and in charge but not letting him have much if any power. And anymore many are raised by a working mother, if not a single mother, so strong women even in the public eye are becoming more and more. Plus, there are some sexy Korean men out there and with what I've witnessed from their women, I think you'd have good luck.
They say only Silver Bullets kill the beast inside.....
It's interesting how Asian cultures are viewed. Unless you really talk to the women and and the men who don't mind talking about it, you don't really get a glimpse of things really are.
A lot of times it's seen as being male dominated due to the women staying at home raising children and the things that behavior of the women, but it's more complicated than that. The femininity the women act out tends to be that, an act, as you need to show your a women and will allow a man to be a man, but you still have to be very strong in every way to raise the children and take care of the home because Asian work weeks are 60+ hours, the norm being around 75. With that the women is left to to take care of everything by herself, making all the decisions. The husband in many senses is just a source of income and a bragging right. If the wife decides to work it's all for her. I've also known couples who don't have children, the wife doesn't work, hires a maid to care for the house and cook and she does whatever she wants, and these are the basic businessmen type wives.
Like I said, it's complicated, but it's only male dominated society in the looks of things, it's more like a puppet show, with the women being the ones pulling all the strings.
They say only Silver Bullets kill the beast inside.....
A lot of what's written about Asian culture tends to be outdated and more then anything written by people observing, not taking part in it or really getting to know the people and how and why things are done the way they are. I've been lucky enough to have friends and family of all cultures, so I've gotten a lot of first hand looks at it. Also dating a lot of Asian men(quite a few who grew up over seas) I've gotten a lot of first hand experience as well as what they expect from women the view as future wives.
They say only Silver Bullets kill the beast inside.....
Well, guess that means I'm going to have to go out and find myself an Asian man. LOL Maybe my friend's prediction's gonna come true...she said something about me marrying some handsome Korean doctor...dunno if she was serious or if she was just being stupid. Anyway, moving on. Seriously though, I think Western men could learn a little from Asian guys in terms of respecting strong-willed women. I've always been told that Asian guys want very submissive wives; I guess it's the other way around.
Lily Cantodea wrote: I've always been told that Asian guys want very submissive wives
In some way every man wants that, but with the way things go now days, submissive wives are useless. They can't make decisions and your offspring will most likely be weak:P
They say only Silver Bullets kill the beast inside.....
If the wife WANTS to have offspring, that is. It's amazing how guys say, "I want x number of children," but they're not the ones who have to go through the pain and agony of pregnancy and birth...
I grew up in a rural town in NW Minnesota and I will not be coming out of the broom closet to most older folks there (I'm 25), they are not religious haters like folks in the South are, they just would not understand, way to many misconceptions and I suck at explaining things.
Lily Cantodea wrote:
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Lily Cantodea wrote:I need a guy who's intelligent, passionate about what he does, has a good, stable job, well-educated (as in, he has some sort of college degree - a high school diploma or GED does not cut it with me), is open-minded, loving, an an all around good guy who isn't a workaholic or self-absorbed, someone who actually cares about things other than food, beer, and porn, and someone who isn't intimidated by a strong-willed girl like me, someone who doesn't treat women as sex objects or slaves, but respects them as people. Rich and good-looking isn't necessary, but it most certainly helps - but I'm capable of making my own money.
I fit all those except the steady job part. Kinda hard in this economy!
You know, I have never really understood goth culture. I'm a pretty "love and light" person in general, though I am pessimistic about the short term prospects of humanity. I guess I fit more into the stereotypical "hippie" mold.
