Mystie - My Husband Is Christain - I'm Not
Posted: Fri Jan 08, 2016 5:32 pm
I'm curious about helpful opinions.
I grew up in south Mississippi. Now live in New Mexico (No passport needed lol!).
I was raised in a Southern-Baptist Christian family.
I NEVER gave in tot he belief of Christianity. I played along as a kid when I was taken to church, mostly to avoid getting in trouble. lol!
Once I got older I was able to avoid it, while still keeping it a secret from my family that I was never 'one of them'.
While *I* do not practice any Christian beliefs & do not believe in them; I do respect the people who do.
I just tend to avoid it because of how harsh my childhood was on it;
I will not elaborate on what I consider harsh because it was unpleasant.
I married my husband, which will be 10 years ago this June.
He was also raised in a Christian home, but when we met he was not... I guess you would say 'Active' Christian. In fact he was also borderline anti-christian, he was open to the idea of magic & different practices.
However; recently, in the past year, he started returning to church. We have had hard struggles financially and other such issues. So I understand him wanting to return to what he knows, and find a comfort to help him get through his problems his own way.
He always knew, from the beginning, that I was borderline anti-christian. He knows about some of the hard things I had to deal with as a kid; he always acted like & said he he understood. He knew I had a fascination with witchcraft & nature & even darker arts. He also knows I do not refer to myself as any particular label, since I feel I am not well-taught enough to find that title.
Only recently he has been acting as if the opposite is happening. He seems to be more religious than before. Even going as far as to tell me I am a poser and that I am not a Wiccan or a Witch; that it is just an annoying obsession.
Which I know I have not found 'what' I am. Though Wicca & witchcraft practices are very similar to what I believe.
I realize he is stressed. We are only a few late payments away from losing some important things, like our home. We are dealing with high levels of debt. That can breakdown anyone. He never used to 'hate' on me about what I believe or what I do; only lately has he been borderline hateful toward me. He even once said "I wonder if God is punishing me for loving & marrying a heathen like you." But at the time it seemed like he was joking.
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I guess what I am wondering is:
Does anyone here have a family of mixed beliefs & how do you balance it out?
Do you still face these same conflicts, hate, & a slowly building level of insults & bitterness?
I realize mixing Christian & Magic is normally like mixing Water & Oil; but I do know it is coming to blend more.
I have even heard of Christian-Wicca beliefs. Though being raised on Christian and KNOWING what it is, I find it hard to see where it can connected without defying the christian side of it. Knowing what *I* know about both sides, I am finding trouble seeing a way to balance it and make it connect.
Any suggestions, comments, or helpful ideas with be great.
(I am not trying to 'hate on' or insult anyone in their beliefs.)
(MODS: If I put this thread in the wrong place, please move if it can be done. If not please tell me where to post and I will copy-delete-paste lol)
I grew up in south Mississippi. Now live in New Mexico (No passport needed lol!).
I was raised in a Southern-Baptist Christian family.
I NEVER gave in tot he belief of Christianity. I played along as a kid when I was taken to church, mostly to avoid getting in trouble. lol!
Once I got older I was able to avoid it, while still keeping it a secret from my family that I was never 'one of them'.
While *I* do not practice any Christian beliefs & do not believe in them; I do respect the people who do.
I just tend to avoid it because of how harsh my childhood was on it;
I will not elaborate on what I consider harsh because it was unpleasant.
I married my husband, which will be 10 years ago this June.
He was also raised in a Christian home, but when we met he was not... I guess you would say 'Active' Christian. In fact he was also borderline anti-christian, he was open to the idea of magic & different practices.
However; recently, in the past year, he started returning to church. We have had hard struggles financially and other such issues. So I understand him wanting to return to what he knows, and find a comfort to help him get through his problems his own way.
He always knew, from the beginning, that I was borderline anti-christian. He knows about some of the hard things I had to deal with as a kid; he always acted like & said he he understood. He knew I had a fascination with witchcraft & nature & even darker arts. He also knows I do not refer to myself as any particular label, since I feel I am not well-taught enough to find that title.
Only recently he has been acting as if the opposite is happening. He seems to be more religious than before. Even going as far as to tell me I am a poser and that I am not a Wiccan or a Witch; that it is just an annoying obsession.
Which I know I have not found 'what' I am. Though Wicca & witchcraft practices are very similar to what I believe.
I realize he is stressed. We are only a few late payments away from losing some important things, like our home. We are dealing with high levels of debt. That can breakdown anyone. He never used to 'hate' on me about what I believe or what I do; only lately has he been borderline hateful toward me. He even once said "I wonder if God is punishing me for loving & marrying a heathen like you." But at the time it seemed like he was joking.
~*~
I guess what I am wondering is:
Does anyone here have a family of mixed beliefs & how do you balance it out?
Do you still face these same conflicts, hate, & a slowly building level of insults & bitterness?
I realize mixing Christian & Magic is normally like mixing Water & Oil; but I do know it is coming to blend more.
I have even heard of Christian-Wicca beliefs. Though being raised on Christian and KNOWING what it is, I find it hard to see where it can connected without defying the christian side of it. Knowing what *I* know about both sides, I am finding trouble seeing a way to balance it and make it connect.
Any suggestions, comments, or helpful ideas with be great.
(I am not trying to 'hate on' or insult anyone in their beliefs.)
(MODS: If I put this thread in the wrong place, please move if it can be done. If not please tell me where to post and I will copy-delete-paste lol)