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Hi butterfly79. I'm wondering, have you talked to your sister about her partner, giving examples of his offensive behavior, and telling her how it makes you feel? Has the guy been drinking when he does this, but is otherwise OK? Some people are obnoxious after only one beer, lol.
Any way, below is an excerpt from
a previous post I wrote that may be helpful:
2. Creating Good Will in the Household...and in Yourself
You could totally rig your house to facilitate good feelings and open communication in a number of ways, such as place what's called a "
ward" of some sort above the entryway to the house, so that anyone who walks in is hit by its peace-making energy. I'll let you research wards, or maybe someone will elaborate on that in this thread. You could ward the dining room by placing one in the bottom of a vase with a flower arrangement, taping them to the bottom of dining room chairs. Imagination is the limit, here. In hoodoo, these are called sneaky tricks, and despite their name, they are often a great way to promote good will and peace.
And there are a number of spells you could do to otherwise promote peaceful vibes: communication spells, reconciliation spells, etc. Write a spell to remove the "repelling energy," and replace it with loving energy. Heck, I even had to do a ritual bath spell on myself:
Creating Good Will within Ritual Bath
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A hoodoo "Peaceful Home" spell incorporates a honey jar,
to "sweeten" peoples' attitudes toward one another.
These are very effective.
And here are some additional amelioration ideas, butterfly79, that just came to me. These are also based on the hoodoo tradition, as is the Peaceful Home remedy above:
Picture Frame Magic
Put Peaceful Home sachet powder on the family photo, then shake it off (the Peaceful Home product line featured in the image above also comes with a sachet powder, or you could do some research and make your own). Write your intentions for the family on a piece of paper, like a love letter. Powder that too, shake off, fold toward you (drawing what you want) until it's small enough to fit behind the family photo. Place both in a picture frame and close the frame (note: in lieu of powder, you could smoke these items with incense; some people do both).
Five-point some Peaceful Home oil or other oil on the picture frame, lightly. Wash a crochet doily or fabric placemat in sachet powder. Place the photo frame on top of doily or placemat. It will sit here on a regular basis, like a little family peace altar. Light a candle and pray over the whole thing. You could keep two candles on either side of it, and light from time to time to re-energize the spell, like when there's a disruption in the family. It will be a spell hidden in plain sight.
Floating Candle Spell
Fill a large, decorative bowl with water. Add a little Peaceful Home sachet powder to water. Anoint floating candles with a little oil, one for each family member, praying over each one as you do this like, "Be a light of peace in this home, have compassion and understanding for others," etc. You could carve a family members name into "their" candle. Light all the candles and turn the lights out. Enjoy the beauty of the candles. Meditate for about ten minutes on peace growing in the home. The candle bowl, too, could remain a regular decorative touch in the home, a sneaky trick hidden in plain sight.
Magical laundry
Wash everyone's clothes in sachet powder, thereby extending the good will vibrations of the spell so that family members are "walking around with them," so that the spell is staying with them and yourself. You just throw some in the washing machine with the laundry, with intention as you do it.
Magical house cleaning
Do a thorough housecleaning, including a magical floor wash (which of course could also be used to wash down walls, doors and door knobs, etc.). You could find some cleaning recipes which members here have contributed in the past, in this post:
http://everythingunderthemoon.net/forum ... ml#p220331, under the subtitle, "Grounding through Making Magical the Mundane Environment." Sometimes a good cleaning brightens the energy.
Finally, here are a few other ideas, involving other types of energy work, as well as tarot:
Healing Portals
Energetically, I'm seeing a few vortexes in your home environment, turning in an inauspicious, widdershins direction, spiraling downward like energy-sucking portals. They are draining the life force energy, making the environment depressive and stagnant. These might be spots where there tends to be a lot of arguments. (?) Disruptive actions tend to tear holes, create fractures and fissures in the unified energy of an environment...does this make sense?
If you could sense where these spots are, work on healing and correcting the energy. Turn them into positive energy vortexes by getting the energy to spiral upward, in a deosil direction, and making them draw fresh, cheerful energy from the ethers into the house, like a good air conditioner pipes in refreshing, cool air that makes everybody happy.
My friend, a feng shui practitioner, has a couple ways of doing this. Sometimes she spins a
pendulum deosil over these spots for a few minutes, focusing her intention on what she wants the energy to do. Or, she might sound a
Tibetan singing bowl over them, and then walk through the entire environment. Both methods dissipate stagnancy, while harmonizing the energy so that positive chi is drawn into the environment.
Personally, I love burning
candles in these spots (especially in the tamasic energy of where a garbage can sits), and/or some
incense, and then praying over the spot. This is especially nice to do after a good house cleaning, plus it smells nice.
Tarot spells
Cards that might be helpful in tarot spells for your situation (see which ones really speak to you):
For female empowerment: The World, Nine of Pentacles, Strength, Queen of Swords, Empress
For healing negative vortexes in home (to use with or without the above items): The Sun (a great antidepressant card)
For breaking up the unhealthy relationship son has with the guy: Ten of Swords, The Tower, Death
For bringing harmonious energy into home: Four of Wands, Seven of Cups, Ten of Cups, Three of Cups
For creating a closer relationship with son: Two of Cups, Ace of Cups
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